Category: Teen Topics
this is for all girls and guys out there.
what is your yop ten things that turns you or turns you of in a relationship. or when ya meet someone. its ok if ya dont give but at least give five.
when i meet someone i feel good when
1 that person has good manners
2 can converse well with everyone. good sense of humor
3 shows a positive attitude towards things, being cheerful
4 looks good (personal hygiene)
5 friendly
i dislike it when
1 there so self assured
2 boastful
3 acts like a jerk, no manners
4 does not wana go to school
5 bad personal hygiene
1. self-respect/respectful to others. 2. good personal highgeen. 3. understanding of others beliefs. 4. focuses on the positive instead of the negative. 5. positive outlook on life.
1 Will listen to you when you say something and support you. 2 Is there for you when you need to talk to them. 3 Loves you for you and doesn't try to change your personality or who you are 4 is someone you can trust and tell things to 5 listens to your beliefs and doesn't critisize them but it's Ok if they have there own.
1. Honesty
2. Understanding the partner
3. He should not be the "I am the coolest in the world"-type.
4. you should have things in common
5. My partner should not only care about looks
6. show that you care for the partner
... I post again if I know the other four *grin*.
1. Likes me for who I am, not who I could be. 2. Doesn't go on pretending nothing is wrong if he finds a problem with me, instead addresses it to me. 3. Doesn't cause harm to others for his enjoyment. 4. Doesn't always over react to everything I say or do. 5. DOESN'T CHEAT ON ME!! Well, that's probably a given but hey.
You guys have valid points, but these are things that a lot of people want. Here's my list. I think you'll find that it's more specific. 1. when he can make me laugh 2. an intelectual 3. really good physical chemistry 4. can match me in emotion and passion 5. a liberal who doesn't mind when I don't follow the typical girl stereotypes all the time 6. if he writes and/or is really into music, that is a total plus 7. he can't be too needy 8. when he doesn't mind cuddling 9. a mysterious guy who knows how to keep me guessing 10. spontanaity
hmm, 1. Doesn't show off. 2. Doesn't keep critisizing you for anything. 3. Is good looking. 4. Cares about you. 5. Is not really jealous.
1. They must be able to suck dick.
2. They must be able to suck dick.
3. They must be able to suck dick.
4. They must be able to suck dick.
5. They must take it in the ass.
Oh. 7. you should support each other.
1: is intelligent and realistic in outlook. 2: is adventurous and willing to try things. 3: has a love or at least good enjoyment of music. 4: Relatively blunt but will listen to what I have to say, knowing that I will listen to her. 5: Has a streek of independence but secure in the knowledge that I'm still around
1. is flexible, mentaly and phisical
2be able to look at the same thing from different angles
3.a willingness to try almost anything once
4. has a sense of adventure
5 likes to play hard
6 can be a lady in the street and a freak in the bed
7 able to listen then talk
8 likes to show love
9 likes to laugh
10 takes pleasure in makeing others happy.
Oh I was nevere adventurous until ... hm, one year ago, i changed a bit.
1 clever but not more than me (!) 2 not very beautiful but not making nobody laugh at me that I have a girl friend like her 3. really a fond of Evanescence, at least rock music. 4. if possible seing 5. if not possible blind but prideable and admirable.
(the things above don't have to be true or lie.) (how dilema!)
1. Is a Christian and preferably has my views so we don't argue. 2. I don't care about looks, but if he's cute, that'sa nice bonus. 3. I like musicians! 4. OK this is random and I'd go out with any race as long as they were nice and number1 was in place, but I am a sucker for Hispanics...and next rednecks if they are nice. 5. Someone who doesn't care about looks but count being cute as a nice bonus heheheeh 6. Is independent but dependent when needs to be if you know what i mean, 7 blind or sighted whomever God gives me he will make it work 8 who has good higene...spelling? lmao cant spell. well if i think of anymore i will put them but thats seven is that good enough???
no i mean eight. lmao!!!
1 is caring, nice, and tries to understand.
2 Try to apreciate my critiques and not be against the truth.
3 Be forgiving and give chances.
4 Be honest, but polite in the same time.
5 Don't try to force people in doing things, because compromising is always the best way.
when i am in a relationship i like it when:
1. the guy treets me with respect,
2. he has good high-jeen,
3. he is cleen cut.
4. doesnt act diffrent around me when he is with his friends.
5. doesnt act all mocho to try and in press me.
I dont like it when:
1. he acts like he is all that and hides who he really is,
2. He forses me to do something.
3. he tells me he loves me, but mabie that isnt the case?
4. He trys to put something off.
5. he isnt honest with me.
I like it when
1. He respects me
2. is easy going around me and makes me laugh.
3. is ya know, not an anti shower hippy.
4. has a sexy voice.
5. can make me curious about them.
I hate it when
1. Guys are all over you for sex (or pics over the internet.)
2. they're awkward and conversation is stiff and cold.
3. they're freaked out by blindness and call me mam. (one of my ex's friends did that.)
4. they wear chapstick when kissing, I hate chapstick kisses.
5. they have bierds. I like clean shaven the best.
1. Good hygiene
2. Spontanaity
3. a good/upbeat personality
4. open-mindedness
5. A good sense of humor
6. enteligence
Ug, I'll post more later?
Wwhen ever i'm in a relationship; 1. there voice has to be hot.
2. they need to understand.
3. they have to sexy.
4. they have to be nic
that's all.e.sitive. ande look
okay! here goes: I'll try not to make this too specific, I usually like really strong trusting friendships, and friends who really spends a lot of time together, of course not forgeting about eithers family time.
when I meet someone I like:
1 decency: they are clean, and nice, and don't talk trash and stuff like that and they don't sound overly ghetto or they dont' talk like that.
2 friendly: they are warm and willing to help people that you know that you can depend on and they can depend on you, and stuff like that, you know that you can go over to their house and they'll treat you finely and they can come over to your house and know that you will treat them well.
3 quieter: they can handle my geekiness, and kind of quiet kind of life, people who aren't to wild, don't do crazy shit at night, and are generally more just friends who goes out to dinner and to other places and stuff. they will go to parties but not like the drinking ones and if they do they know how to act like a gentleman and not get stoned or something. someone I can say to Yeah, I didn't think you're the kind to drink wildly and do crazy stuff, so I can trust you.
4 unforceful: friends that don't oversell their points and people who dont' generally go push you towards their ideas. and, people who understand your boundaries, and will respect them and your points of views, for instance, unpushy christians who won't try to make you christian.
5 straightforwardness: friends who will be honest with you but not be rude about it, they may say your dress looks bad to people who can even see their own close or the way you put on make up makes you look unattractive, and not mean it as a jerk but more as a truthful and concerned friend, or the way you are going about doing something is not going to work, and mean that to help and as a friend to be able to tell you verses everyone who just doesn't say anything
6 openness and welcoming: people who aren't in clichs even with you in it and it feels like a closed group. a family atmosphere is great and I love that, but you got to also include some new people I say
7 active: not overly so and are the kind of people that has to do something every five seconds but enough to go places and not wanting to stay at home all day or just going to each others house or to one place to hang out, people who are willing to go out to dinner and different places to hang out.
8 empathetic: people who can empathize with you and who can help you out with problems and see why you like and don't like things and understand your personality and your preferences and will respect it fully. and will respect you to return it and will trust their friends to be the best friends ever and will do a lot for their friends and of course expect it in turn. people who are the opposite from the ones who doesn't listen to you puts you last because they can't understand who you are, and so forth.
9 loyalty and protectiveness: I don't know how you describe it really but friends who will help you out of trouble, more then empathy, If you are sick offer to help and stuff, and vise versa being willing to trust that your friend will not do something bad to you and be willing to maybe save their life stand in the way of a bullet for them or something along those lines to put it extremely.
10 commited: people who will hang out with you and will keep promises and appointments and will consistently be your friend and show you not once every few months when they remember or feel like it or when you see them, friends you don't need to ask to be commited to be your friends.
when I meet someone I don't like
1: coddling or overprotectivness: protectiveness making sure your friends are helthy and well, out of trouble, and out of danger is good, it becomes a problem, when the said friend controls your life, and it doesn't matter if you're blind or not, or wish to take up too much time and not let you hang out with people because they think you belong to them. people who tend to come out to be abusive boyfriends and control who you may and may not talk to.
2 consuming: if someone wants to be with you all the time because they think they are the most important thing, and the fact that you have a life and have other things to do doesn't occur to them. I also dislike people who wants to hang out so much that they do not allow you to have time to your family and relatives much less to yourself and wants you to talk to them or bugs you every five minutes by texting or messengers. and then gets angry if you don't give them attention.
3 manipulation: people who wish to just get under your skin and be your friend and use you or rather make you do things and make their decisions.
4 fakeness: people who want to be friends but yet want to llie to you who they are and is so superficial when they talk to you or when they pretend they like you. or those who are your friend on one count but when certain people are around well maybe they don't really want to do anything with you much less to say hello.
5 disrespect: friends who can not accept another friend for who they are and pushes boundaries, and over sell points and lie to them, cheat them out of things, and other general rudeness
6 moaners and self-centered behavior: friends who claims to be your friend but spend a lot of time talking about other people moaning about everything under the sun, grumples about everything constantly and how things are bad and not perfect especially little things like hair and nails and other people and stuff and talking about themselves all day.
7 backstabbers: people who can say one thing to you and then do others or worse say things to others in your face as if you weren't there. both are as bad.
8 lazy don't seem to care about life and self: people who are opposite from people who actually care enough to care about themselves and don't dress funny, smoke or drink and especially not in your face, and will if they do have the decency to go outside for a smoke though if you say I don't really like the smell of cigars or cigarettes they will understand but I much prefer people who choose to live a substance free life. but also people who are not enthusiastic about life and don't care about everything they do also bugs me, the people who work mostly for money or do things for friends not for the true friendship reasons.
9 a dirty mind: I dislike people who have to talk and think about sex all the time, people who bring it out all the time and about boys and guys and dating and how different people are doing diffferent people, or have to bring up images of oh I think this dirty minded joke or saying is funny. or I get annoyed at over flirty friends amongst themselves or with me, or something, with me is usually even more awkward. and, I don't like people who constantly have to watch all these dirty shows and stuff with their friends and have to show there friends all these dirty clips and shows and stuff.
10 shallowness/gosipers: people who have to constantly talk on and on about there nails, and how it would look good, what make up they would where. what hot guys are out there today and how so and so are hot and how they want to date them all, and how so and so is going out with so and so today, and getting in to everyone's business. then there's the oh my god, you're going out with this person and egging on the activity and have to discuss that for five hours especially in front of a lot of people. I mean, once in a while you tell someone that so and so is together is fine, or you talk about how they are going out with someone and how it is in a non-gossipy way, and kind of catch up is totally fine, but..when it becomes the main topic combined with some of this other stuff, it gets on my nerves very fast.
wow, my dislikes took way longer then my likes and it certainly took a lot more thought so that was interesting. well, I did it and here are the ten likes and ten dislikes. enough of me, now.
okay! here goes: I'll try not to make this too specific, I usually like really strong trusting friendships, and friends who really spends a lot of time together, of course not forgeting about eithers family time.
when I meet someone I like:
1 decency: they are clean, and nice, and don't talk trash and stuff like that and they don't sound overly ghetto or they dont' talk like that.
2 friendly: they are warm and willing to help people that you know that you can depend on and they can depend on you, and stuff like that, you know that you can go over to their house and they'll treat you finely and they can come over to your house and know that you will treat them well.
3 quieter: they can handle my geekiness, and kind of quiet kind of life, people who aren't to wild, don't do crazy shit at night, and are generally more just friends who goes out to dinner and to other places and stuff. they will go to parties but not like the drinking ones and if they do they know how to act like a gentleman and not get stoned or something. someone I can say to Yeah, I didn't think you're the kind to drink wildly and do crazy stuff, so I can trust you.
4 unforceful: friends that don't oversell their points and people who dont' generally go push you towards their ideas. and, people who understand your boundaries, and will respect them and your points of views, for instance, unpushy christians who won't try to make you christian.
5 straightforwardness: friends who will be honest with you but not be rude about it, they may say your dress looks bad to people who can even see their own close or the way you put on make up makes you look unattractive, and not mean it as a jerk but more as a truthful and concerned friend, or the way you are going about doing something is not going to work, and mean that to help and as a friend to be able to tell you verses everyone who just doesn't say anything
6 openness and welcoming: people who aren't in clichs even with you in it and it feels like a closed group. a family atmosphere is great and I love that, but you got to also include some new people I say
7 active: not overly so and are the kind of people that has to do something every five seconds but enough to go places and not wanting to stay at home all day or just going to each others house or to one place to hang out, people who are willing to go out to dinner and different places to hang out.
8 empathetic: people who can empathize with you and who can help you out with problems and see why you like and don't like things and understand your personality and your preferences and will respect it fully. and will respect you to return it and will trust their friends to be the best friends ever and will do a lot for their friends and of course expect it in turn. people who are the opposite from the ones who doesn't listen to you puts you last because they can't understand who you are, and so forth.
9 loyalty and protectiveness: I don't know how you describe it really but friends who will help you out of trouble, more then empathy, If you are sick offer to help and stuff, and vise versa being willing to trust that your friend will not do something bad to you and be willing to maybe save their life stand in the way of a bullet for them or something along those lines to put it extremely.
10 commited: people who will hang out with you and will keep promises and appointments and will consistently be your friend and show you not once every few months when they remember or feel like it or when you see them, friends you don't need to ask to be commited to be your friends.
when I meet someone I don't like
1: coddling or overprotectivness: protectiveness making sure your friends are helthy and well, out of trouble, and out of danger is good, it becomes a problem, when the said friend controls your life, and it doesn't matter if you're blind or not, or wish to take up too much time and not let you hang out with people because they think you belong to them. people who tend to come out to be abusive boyfriends and control who you may and may not talk to.
2 consuming: if someone wants to be with you all the time because they think they are the most important thing, and the fact that you have a life and have other things to do doesn't occur to them. I also dislike people who wants to hang out so much that they do not allow you to have time to your family and relatives much less to yourself and wants you to talk to them or bugs you every five minutes by texting or messengers. and then gets angry if you don't give them attention.
3 manipulation: people who wish to just get under your skin and be your friend and use you or rather make you do things and make their decisions.
4 fakeness: people who want to be friends but yet want to llie to you who they are and is so superficial when they talk to you or when they pretend they like you. or those who are your friend on one count but when certain people are around well maybe they don't really want to do anything with you much less to say hello.
5 disrespect: friends who can not accept another friend for who they are and pushes boundaries, and over sell points and lie to them, cheat them out of things, and other general rudeness
6 moaners and self-centered behavior: friends who claims to be your friend but spend a lot of time talking about other people moaning about everything under the sun, grumples about everything constantly and how things are bad and not perfect especially little things like hair and nails and other people and stuff and talking about themselves all day.
7 backstabbers: people who can say one thing to you and then do others or worse say things to others in your face as if you weren't there. both are as bad.
8 lazy don't seem to care about life and self: people who are opposite from people who actually care enough to care about themselves and don't dress funny, smoke or drink and especially not in your face, and will if they do have the decency to go outside for a smoke though if you say I don't really like the smell of cigars or cigarettes they will understand but I much prefer people who choose to live a substance free life. but also people who are not enthusiastic about life and don't care about everything they do also bugs me, the people who work mostly for money or do things for friends not for the true friendship reasons.
9 a dirty mind: I dislike people who have to talk and think about sex all the time, people who bring it out all the time and about boys and guys and dating and how different people are doing diffferent people, or have to bring up images of oh I think this dirty minded joke or saying is funny. or I get annoyed at over flirty friends amongst themselves or with me, or something, with me is usually even more awkward. and, I don't like people who constantly have to watch all these dirty shows and stuff with their friends and have to show there friends all these dirty clips and shows and stuff.
10 shallowness/gosipers: people who have to constantly talk on and on about there nails, and how it would look good, what make up they would where. what hot guys are out there today and how so and so are hot and how they want to date them all, and how so and so is going out with so and so today, and getting in to everyone's business. then there's the oh my god, you're going out with this person and egging on the activity and have to discuss that for five hours especially in front of a lot of people. I mean, once in a while you tell someone that so and so is together is fine, or you talk about how they are going out with someone and how it is in a non-gossipy way, and kind of catch up is totally fine, but..when it becomes the main topic combined with some of this other stuff, it gets on my nerves very fast.
wow, my dislikes took way longer then my likes and it certainly took a lot more thought so that was interesting. well, I did it and here are the ten likes and ten dislikes. enough of me, now.
Hmmmm, lets see...
1. Gotta have a good sense of humor
2. Good personal hygiene
3. A good listener
4. they gotta be independent
5. They gotta be kind and caring. Meaning, they can't be a jerk to everyone.
And if they're not these things. It's a big no!
Hmm, well my turn-ons are:
1. voice: Hmm, not too high, but not too low!
accent: Not too southern, but not so northern either, on US accents of course. Brittish is fine, Irish and Scottish really work on me!
They can't be too loud either, I really don't like loud people.
2. Body:
I don't care what the face looks like at all.
Hair: maybe long, but not dragging-accross-the-floor long, way too much hair!
the rest: I like big girls. Yes I'm weird, deal with it. I wouldn't want a skinny girl, just nothing there, and I wouldn't really care about athletic, most athletes are all cockie and crap to me, which is why I don't care for them.
Personality:
They have to be able to see my point of view about things, and being a Christian would help a lot, so we don't argue about everything and anything.
They have to be able to be there for me when I'm upset about something, well ok maybe not everything but hey I don't get upset much so it shouldn't be too hard, right? LOL
They cannot be the type that gets drunk every time they go out somewhere, that just will not work with me, I hate people who think they have to drink their lives away!
They can't have parties every darn night or be really loud and stuff when they talk.
They have to understand how blind people are and how to treat us and all that.
They have to be able to come see me at least once a month. I know its strict but I cannot, and I mean cannot, work with a long distance relationship because I always seem to half-way-fall for other girls, y'all probably know what I mean.
Being romantic could be a plus, but not really required.
We have to have things in common, being a nerd, loving sci-fi, stuff like that.
I think that's about it, I think, LOL. And it may change.
devinprater, skinny girls have nothing there? really? I think you're confusing that with girls who are anorexic. cause, some of us are just built with small frames, but that doesn't mean we lack meat on our bodies.
devin, hate to say this but, I think you just got told! haha JK
anyways my 5, in no particular order
1: personality, kind, cheerful, slightly hyper, possibly a dirty sense of humor....
2: body, slim/average? hair I don't really care about, just not overly long
3: independent
4: if she's a good listener that'd be nice
5: don't have one right now off the top of my head
I prefer if she is with the following.
1. honest,
2. truly loving!
3. non-racial.
4. sweet voice.
5. not forcing me for which I don't like.
6. good understanding.
7. good hygiene.
8. mutual respect.
9. accepting me for who I am.
10. good in bed!
Raaj
last one isn't in the top 10 for me, but it'd be nice! heh
hmmm. I thought this topic may get more responses, but this topic is going down in the page.
Bring it up people.
Raaj